Tips on how to turn a hookup into a relationship

Comply with your principles. When you are on a date and things start to get hot and intense, you tell that guy you want to take things slow or you don’t hookup on your first date. Then the next morning, you wake up naked beside him looking for your underwear. When you meet a guy whom you want to have a relationship with, do keep your word and comply with your principles. It is no use to tell him that you want a serious relationship while acting like a friend finder for tinder hookup. Take baby steps while he gets to know you.

Make sure you take initiative and you get something back. Do not always try to contact him on your initiative. He has to do something for you as well. Plus, always receiving message from the same person can be tiresome after sometime. Let him come to you, not just for one night hookup on dating apps. Take it from another perspective, if there is someone who always act on him initiative, you need to act on your initiative once in a while to encourage him to keep going, or he would think you are not interested. Vise versa. In the meantime, you can also figure out if he is into you or not. If you have already constantly message him for sometime, you can stop now and see if he would contact you. If he does, that means he is maybe interested. If he doesn’t, then you should try to find out if you are not the type for him.

Do not act over independent. Act like you don’t need any man won’t help you at all. If you want someone to be in your life, you should let him know. You should let him know that you need him. I know many female went through a lot to be here. But being too over independent and tell everyone that you are on your own on everything can shut guys out, because you can be fine on your own and what do you need men for? It is okay to talk about your difficulties and achievements, but let him know you need someone by your side once for a while.

If you act like you don’t need someone, then you might get nothing from them but only one night hookup.

Know your value. Relationships are the biggest challenge for self-value. You need to be confident about your self-value. DO not be satisfied by just a one night hookup. When a girl has low self-esteem, she tends to give up long-term relationship for short-term gratification and attention.

After hooking up again and again, it will become a vicious circle, because low self-esteem will be intensified, which would lead to more direct approval and more unhealthy hookup.

If you already have hooked up with a guy and your relationship is casual in most  circumstances, that does not mean your relationship cannot upgrade to something more serious. Many relationships start from one night hookup. If you want more from him, it’s time to do something other than pleasing each other sexually.